Dr Mike Buckley

Dr Mike Buckleycompass-1292961Who am I?

I am a consultant you hire to come alongside of you and help you to see more clearly what your problems are. I can help make sense of what is confusing or painful. I have been privileged to work with many people over the years. Therefore, I have seen and heard many if not all of the things you wish you could talk about. I provide a safe place to talk and work out the things that have been bothering you.

compass-1292961The Therapeutic Relationship:

I am a professional licenced counsellor (Registered Counselling Therapist or RCT) with over 30 years of experience.  Counselling is a vocation (or calling) for me. That means it is not just a job, or a set of treatments I do to people. Therapy involves getting to know you and you getting to know me in a trusting relationship.

Research shows that the therapeutic relationship is much more important to the outcome of therapy than any specific treatment or therapeutic theory. Therefore, I recommend at least an introductory phone call so we can meet and talk. It helps us to decide if the relationship looks like it might work. There needs to be a “fit” between us that suggests a positive relationship is possible before either of us can commit to the work of therapy.

compass-1292961The Risk:

Seeking out treatment and the development of a therapeutic relationship involves man-silhouette-1525996risk-taking. It can be scary to seek help. The vast majority of people never seek out the help they need because of that risk. Many people take the first steps toward getting help but back out at the last minute because of this fear. I encourage you to take the risk. The most common statement I hear from my clients is “I wish I had done this a long time ago when I first thought of it.”

compass-1292961Self-Change and Self-Help:

When people do enter treatment, they often report that they have been trying to do it on their own, sometimes for years. Self-help books and groups can be very beneficial. I frequently recommend some of them while in therapy depending on the individual. Sometimes I find that my clients have tried the self-help options but have been less than satisfied with the results.  Rather than labeling these false starts as failures I recommend that we look at them as attempts at self-change have been at least partially successful. They often teach us something about you, or the approach, often laying the foundation for the work that we do later.

Regardless of your level of success with these options, they have served to prepare you for a more complete form of therapy. For you to be reading this web site suggests that you may have that rare ability to face the fear of going for help, and can overcome it. For those who make it in for treatment the addition of the therapeutic relationship to the self-help and self-change strategies already attempted is often the missing ingredient that transforms their efforts into the hoped for success.

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